"WATCH YOUR WORDS"

(thoughtful)
By Francis J. Kong, ( "Insensitive" -- orig. title)
From his book: Life's Work (edited)

People can be insensitive sometimes. Sure, they might not be doing it on purpose, or they might not have meant to slight anyone, but they should know that for victims of insensitive remarks, the wound is deep and painful and takes a long time to heal.

We hear insensitive remarks everywhere. They are spoken daily in the workplace, in the neighborhood, in the beauty parlors, even in the church.
There will always be a market for negative remarks against another person.
And there are always people who find hurtful gossip and rumors irresistible.
If someone accidentally bruises your soul, it's difficult to know how to respond. Someone at work criticizes the new boss, who also happens to be your dear friend. This insensitive person sees you and say: "Oh, I'm sorry; I forgot the two of you are close friends."

You're at a party. The conversation shifts to food and calories. A joke is told about overweight people. You're overweight. You hear the joke. You smile politely while your heart sinks. You catch the sideway glances of people looking at your direction as they laugh at the joke.
You were given an assignment. You blew it. Your boss approaches you with a fierceness in his eyes you have never seen before. What was intended to be a reprimand for a decision or action becomes a personal attack. He tells you that "you have a history of poor decisions."

Should you bravely confront them about their actions and insensitive remarks, all you will get are lame excuses like "Oh, but I had no intention of hurting you" or " I didn't realize you were so sensitive!" or "I forgot you were here!"
Understand that insensitive remarks come from the infamous gang of four:
Disrespect, Disregard, Demeaning and Disappointment. Children of Egotism.
Offspring of Envy and Pride. Self-centeredness is their ancestor. The mirror is their only source of light and vision. And, believe me, they are all over the place.
These four witches have combined to poison countless relationships and break innumerable hearts. Listed among their weapons are the Devil's most cruel artillery: gossip, accusations, resentment, impatience.

Don't be drafted into this wicked army. Consider the wise words of Henry Lesser:
"When you speak of others, say something nice;
Try to say good things, regardless of who is around,
If you have nothing good to say, don't utter a sound.
You may find that an innocent remark, in the end,
May lose you a close and valued friend."

A good man's speech reveals the rich treasures within him. An evil-hearted man is filled with venom, and his speech reveals it. So be careful and watch your words. Perhaps better still, watch your heart!

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You will see a lot of thing but
they will mean nothing to you
If you lose sight of the thing you love