WHAT A LOVE DOES & WHAT LOVE DOESN'T

(thoughtful)

WHAT A LOVE DOES

LOVE
ACCEPTS you whatever you are
AFFIRMS your goodness and giftedness
CARES about you, wants to know you are okay
CHALLENGES you to be all you can be
EMPHATIZES know what it's like to be you
ENCOURAGES you to be believe in yourself
IS GENTLE in its way of dealing with you
KEEPS CONFIDENCE - secrets are safe
LAUGHS A LOT always with, never at you
LOOKS FOR GOODNESS in you and finds it
MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD that you are you
OVERLOOKS your foolish vanities, human weakness
PRAYS for your needs and growth
SEES good things in you by self-disclosure
SPEAKS UP when you need someone to defend you
IS TACTFUL even when confronting you
TAKES RESPONSIBILITIES for its own behavior
TELLS YOU THE TRUTH always and honestly
THINKS about you and your needs
IS TOUGH OR TENDER depending on your needs
UNDERSTANDS your ups and downs, allows your "bad days"!


WHAT LOVE DOESN'T

LOVE
DOESN'T ABUSE you of take for granted
ASK you to march to a different drummer
BLAME you or carry angry grudges
BULLY you by anger, a loud voices or tears
GET you into win-lose arguments
GIVE you unsolicited advice
JUDGE you or tell you "what your whole trouble is"
JUST TOLERATE you as a condescending favor
MAKE YOU PROVE yourself again and again
NEED always to be right, to have all the answers
POUT or refuse to talk to you
PUNISH you vindictively for being wrong
REMEMBER all the things you have done wrong
SEEK and call attention to itself
SHOW OFF just let you know where you stand
UNDERMINE your confidence in yourself
USE you for its own purposes and then discard you
VENTILATE its emotions on you as a garbage dump
WRITE YOU OFF because you didn't meet its demands
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LUCIA NURMALA KRISTIAN