The Rewards of a Close, Connected Relationship"

(relationship) by Susie and Otto Collins

If you've ever wondered whether "working" on a relationship is worth all the trouble, by the time you get to the end of this article, we feel that you'll absolutely know that it is!

Recently we received the following question and we think it's a great one that many of you may have been mulling over--


"I'm contemplating entering into a new relationship and I have a lot of baggage from the past. What are the 'ongoing' and 'abundant' rewards of creating the 'relationship of your dreams'?


Why should I enter into a relationship and do all that hard work? I'm trying to decide about a new relationship and I need some encouragement to get over my fears."

So what are the "ongoing" and "abundant" rewards for creating the relationship of your dreams?

Since creating the relationships of your dreams has a different meaning to you and to everyone else that will read this article, the best thing we can do is to share straight from our hearts about the rewards we experience in our own relationship.

Here are some of the rewards...

1. We have the safety to be who we really are with each other which is usually very rare in our society.
   
2. We get to experience the joy and bliss of connecting deeply with another soul on all levels--sexually, physically, emotionally,mentally. We really get to "feel" love.
   
3. In many relationships when conflict and challenges come up, there is only a deepening of pain and distance. In our relationship, conflict and challenges do come up but because of our commitment to work through these challenges,we regain our connection and closeness as quickly as possible instead of staying stuck in resentment, anger and pain.
   
4. In connecting and loving each other, we are loving ourselves more and expanding into our true potential.
   
5. When we are mostly deeply connected, we get glimpses of an extension of a connection to whatever name you want to call our Higher Power, Creator, God or Source.
   
6. This is a place where all pain, doubt, and confusion seem to melt away and there's only love. In our lives so far, it's only been through our deep connection through love that we've been able to reach that place. While relationships are not the only place or way to reach this state, this is where we have experienced it.
   

Here are a few of the ways we've found to create a close,connected relationship...

1. Be willing to open your heart and let love come in.
   
2. Let go of everything that has happened in any relationship in the past that is making you fearful of moving forward into a life and relationship filled with possibilities.
   
3. Decide that you deserve love and you want love. Consciously and intentionally decide what you want in a relationship and then make that known to the Universe, God, Spirit or whatever name
   you assign to the Higher Power and do not settle for less than what you want.
   

If there's one thing we want to share with you, it is a message of hope and possibilities. No matter what has been your experience in relationships up until now, we want you to know that a deep, connected love is possible because we and others have this as part of our experience. We believe that no matter how much love you've had in your life up until now, more is available to you.

Let your intentions be your guide for the love that you want. As Henry David Thoreau said, "If one advances confidently in the direction of their dreams, and endeavors to live a life which they have imagined, they will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."


Be more concerned with your character than your reputation,
because your character is what you really are,
while your reputation is merely what others think you are
***********************************************

Indo community